Individual Therapy

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You want better relationships

You need support with your friendships, romantic life, family, parenting, work. You love your life partner, but you’re stuck in repetitive arguments that get swept under the rug. You keep things to yourself, even though you want to trust more. You want to be more assertive at work, but feel terrified. You hate that you can’t say ‘no’. You want to end a friendship that no longer serves you but feel guilty about it.

You’re dealing with harmful management at work. You’re in a confusing relationship that leaves you second-guessing yourself. You become uncontactable when you’re down, frustrating your loved ones. You want a life partner but struggle with dating. You’ve changed, but your relationships haven’t evolved with you. You want more emotional intimacy with your friends but don’t know how. You’re terrified of being vulnerable.

Relevant terms: assertiveness; assertive communication;  boundaries; bids for connection; repair ruptures; negotiating differences; conflict resolution; depression; loneliness; fear of vulnerability; workplace bullying; toxic management

  • You need support with your friendships, romantic life, family, parenting, work. You love your life partner, but you’re stuck in repetitive arguments that get swept under the rug. You keep things to yourself, even though you want to trust more. You want to be more assertive at work, but feel terrified. You hate that you can’t say ‘no’. You want to end a friendship that no longer serves you but feel guilty about it.

    You’re dealing with harmful management at work. You’re in a confusing relationship that leaves you second-guessing yourself. You become uncontactable when you’re down, frustrating your loved ones. You want a life partner but struggle with dating. You’ve changed, but your relationships haven’t evolved with you. You want more emotional intimacy with your friends but don’t know how. You’re terrified of being vulnerable.

    Relevant terms: assertiveness; assertive communication;  boundaries; bids for connection; repair ruptures; negotiating differences; conflict resolution; depression; loneliness; fear of vulnerability; workplace bullying; toxic management

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You've been badly hurt in many ways

You want to move forward in life, but the pain of your unresolved relational wounds sits so deeply within you that it affects your mood, relationships, and self-perception. These wounds were inflicted by significant figures in your life, such as parents or relatives during childhood; school mates and teachers who humiliated you; a harmful manager who destroyed your confidence; or friends and romantic partners who clouded your sense of reality.

You seek healing for these wounded parts, to find meaning, let go, and feel less trapped and burdened. You desire joy and connection, to find like-minded people in this world who will help restore your confidence in yourself and in others, and to feel less scared. You want to change the template of the world that you’ve inherited from these experiences.

Relevant terms: relational wounds; complex trauma; attachment styles; early life experiences; post-traumatic stress disorder; family trauma; early childhood experiences; early childhood trauma; adverse childhood events; workplace injury

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You want to feel lighter and happier

You seek more inner peace and to exist less in your thoughts. You often experience a constant internal monologue, debating all sides and worrying about scenarios; trapped in uncertainty, indecision, and anxiety. You want to speak confidently without cringing over past interactions. You want to know your boundaries and rights, to feel less guilty, ‘bad’, and self-critical.

You always try to do the right thing and want others to see you as strong and competent. You wish to stop worrying so often about others judging you negatively. You find yourself lacking patience and constantly trying to keep busy, and want to enjoy your company more. You notice you can obsess over making yourself and your work perfect, and feel unhappy in the process. You’re feeling burnt out and you know something’s just not working in your life.

Relevant terms: perfectionism; rumination; unrelenting standards; self-criticism; rejection sensitivity; self-worth; comparisonitis; anxiety; emotional avoidance; obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD); distraction coping; hustle culture; confidence

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You want more

You feel generally ok, but you crave more meaning. While you value productivity, the joy of your achievements is fleeting, and you question your purpose. You want to explore existential ideas such as the meaning of life, but feel you can’t in your current social circles.

Though you have always solved problems on your own, some issues keep recurring. You seek someone to help you overcome your blindspots and personal limitations, to provide you with further insight and clarity. You want to be more in touch with your feelings, and be driven by excitement rather than fear. You want to increase self-expression and creativity, and confidently take up space in the world.

Relevant terms: authenticity; daring greatly; value driven; find your why; purpose; state of flow; shadow work; comfort zone; personal development; self-actualisation; confidence; contentment

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You're caught between cultures

Despite being a competent worker, you’re told or you feel you’re not 'assertive and confident' enough, leading to a lack of deserved recognition. You argue with your parents over conflicting values and misunderstandings, and your values also clash with people you’ve known since childhood, making you worry about losing these relationships. You hide parts of yourself depending on which social circle you are in, as you fear rejection.

You feel guilt often and that leads to self-silencing and associated indecisions or emotional turbulence. You want to give yourself permission to feel your feelings, and do things differently to how they’ve always been done in your family. You want to understand your heritage, hold the tension between different sides of you, harmonise your cultures, and define your identity.

Relevant terms: intergenerational trauma; generational gap; cross-cultural issues; culture clash; identity crisis; immigrant culture

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You've experienced loss in life transitions

You experience profound sadness from losing something meaningful that you can't yet articulate. Through migration, you've lost community, social structure, and identity. You feel grief over changes in your relationships, like friendships that have grown apart with distance, break ups or the shifting dynamics with your aging parents.

These losses may not be well understood by others or by the majority culture you're in, making you feel like you no longer quite belong anywhere. You’re navigating some major life transitions like career change, and you need help with managing the stress.

Relevant terms: minority stress; ambiguous loss; unresolved grief; unmetabolised loss; third culture kid; cultural bereavement; cultural identity; major life events; life transitions; significant life decisions; loss of cultural and social capital; sense of belonging

Couples Therapy

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Communication

  • You notice you’re repeating the same arguments in the same pattern, and they don’t feel resolved.

  • You feel like your partner doesn’t understand you, they don’t “get” why you’re the way you are.

  • You notice conflicts can get explosive or result in shut-downs, stonewalling, and withdrawals.

  • You want to be a better communicator and reduce your defensiveness in your relationship.

  • You want to deepen your emotional bond and more effectively express feelings and needs.

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Values

  • You disagree about finances, parenting, relationships with extended family and community, religion/faith, how time should be spent, household division of responsibilities, and more. You’re keen to explore what is behind these differences and how to navigate them.

  • You’ve experienced significant life transitions like relocation, death of loved ones, or job changes that have disrupted your relationship dynamic and you need help adjusting.

  • You feel you’re losing yourself through the constant compromises.

  • You’ve been together for a long time and want to rediscover each other as you are now or re-negotiate the existing dynamic.

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Intimacy

  • You cherish each other but notice an absence of vitality in your relationship. You want to enhance your experience of sex and eroticism. You have hidden desires or parts of you that you’d like to share.

  • You noticed a decline in friendship and positive regard for each other. At times, there may even be contempt, criticism, and deep resentment. You struggle with forgiveness, which hinders intimacy.

  • You feel you’re becoming strangers and wonder where is the person you fell for.

  • You wonder how to trust again following an act of betrayal.